The bond between a father and a child is as special as the one between a mother and a child.
It’s rather sad that not many talk about this special bond. Fathers go through the whole parenting challenge in a different way, when compared to the mothers. A mother bonds with her baby through breastfeeding, co-sleeping and being the parent at the forefront taking care of the child. But what about the fathers? Raising 2 kids of my own and seeing the bond that my husband shares with the them, I guess it’s a natural instinct for the fathers as well.
They bond when they see us bond. They care when we show them we care just as much. Leave the babies with dads without worrying about how will they manage. Your baby is theirs too and they really do care!
Going on holidays together strengthens the bond between the fathers and the kids. Often moms worry about how will they take care of small babies on holidays, but you need to give it a try to see how it really goes. The first time may be tough but the second time it will get easier. Dads definitely get more hands down with kids. Most dads work for long durations, sometimes working beyond their time and pushing their limits just to take care of their families financially. In doing so, they do get tired but the joy they experience when they get back home and see their kids is priceless. You see, being a homemaker is tough but so is being a dad. They are our strength and pillars that keep us going.
Rishi has always been a caring dad, dealing with my tantrums and that of the kids. Taking good care of us at all times. Taking charge when I fall down and always staying calm when I get annoyed. Handling situations which I cannot handle. He’s the rock for us that stands strong and is always by our side.
This Father’s Day as we celebrate every father’s role in parenting, we have a small heartfelt write up, from my husband.
We absolutely love celebrating the fatherly figures and mentors in our lives. Being a father is a lifelong journey that can be the most rewarding of all experiences. A father’s position in one’s life is unmatched, with a bond that is so complex, yet so beautiful. Often, we regard mothers as the caretakers, while fathers are sought to be the breadwinners. However, the role of fathers and mothers is more collective than individualized, when it comes to raising kids. Sure, every member of a society has a different role and a different position to fill. This applies to family units as well who actually make up the society. But the bottom line is that parenting is indeed a joint effort, and every step parents take for kids, matters. Every phase of the child’s life brings with it a set of newer challenges, and you’re never fully equipped to gracefully handle it all. It’s a continuous learning process and a long journey. Fatherhood isn’t easy either, rather it only gets tougher as the years’ progress. This brings me to the realization that parents are in fact the executives of the family, thus the endeavors of both, mothers and fathers are of much significance and neither is to be taken for granted.
Father’s day is a great reminder of how the presence of a father completes not just our families, but societies at large. It also reminds us to pause and express our gratitude to the fathers who have stood by us through it all, thus giving us the perfect opportunity for a special family bonding time. For all their unconditional love, support, affection and even the tough love, the dads do well deserve a day dedicated solely to them. Days like this, bring us closer to each other as we reflect upon the actual weight of our relationships with each other. Doesn’t it feel wonderful to know that your efforts are acknowledged? This doesn’t have to be achieved through over-the-top ideas and materials, rather a simple act of kindness through words is sometimes enough to bring about this lovely feeling. Fathers are sure to cherish this little acknowledgement from the kids they love so dearly. Besides, children learn the value of familial ties, caring for others and most importantly, expressing their love freely. This emotional connectedness between kids and their dads is required as it helps them to get ahead in life with the confidence they have someone to rely on and fall back upon if something goes wrong. Fathers, like mothers, provide for the emotional stability of the kids which they carry on for the rest of their lives. Hence, to observe a day just to ponder on the great joys our dads have added to our lives is a brilliant idea.
In today’s times, as we are breaking free of gender stereotypes, conversations about the emotional availability of men are making rounds more than ever before. I believe this is the best time to talk about how precious are those moments when fathers really show up for their kids and connect with them at a deeper level. Surely, the assurance of having understanding parents is very comforting. We all love and appreciate our dads for the times they’ve really opened up to us and fought for us, all while taking up the everyday challenge of providing for us!
Hence, the relationship between a child and his dad is unlike any other relationship the child encounters through the course of his life. It’s the one built on usually unspoken and yet entirely evident emotions and connectedness. Isn’t this truly a special bond?
A message from the father – Rishi Fogla
“Father’s Day is a very special day to remind you of yourself when you were little and how you’d want to make the day special for your father. Once you’re a father yourself, you look forward to your kids doing the same for you.
A father in our society is regarded as a breadwinner and the mother as a house binder. However, in my family, my wife and I, both take equal responsibilities for raising our kids.
We’ve two boys and it’s always said that daughters are father’s favourites and boys are mummy’s. I beg to disagree here as I share a deep bond with my two monkeys, with me being the third one. I am their team leader in carrying out all the fun and mischief with them.
Being a father of two boys made me realise how challenging it was for my father to have me as a son.
Celebrating Father’s Day with my children and their grandfather creates a sense of bonding and shows how deep a father and son relationship really is.”
