There is no such things as a perfect parent. So just be a real one. ~ Sue Atkins
Words wisely said and aptly phrased. In today’s world of trying to be a millennial parent, we often struck ourselves to be the best. To be utterly perfect not only for our children but for ourselves and also in the eyes of others. We strive to be the ideal parent when no one ever knows what perfect is.
We compare our parenting ways to others and deem ourselves as not so perfect, guilty, and miserable. The little time you give yourself which you so deserve and the guilt you feel when you come back to know your child howled for you, makes you feel miserable and makes you rethink if you are a good parent. The anger you feel whenever someone judges you for giving a piece of your mind to your child who is at the peak of their tantrum makes you judge yourself and probably behave in a worse way with your child. The ‘mommy’s goals’ when some mom is so correctly raising their children that it makes you feel guilty about your ways. When you don’t even know that mommy who is perfect In front of others might not be so excellent at home and at other things you are so good at. She might be struggling with things you can complete in a jiffy.
In striving to be a perfect parent, let’s not judge others, let’s not compare our ways to others, let us not feel so guilty for taking out time for yourself above others. Take inspiration from people around you rather than get some not so positive parenting goals. Take the good and be present for your child. Be present for their needs, be present for them. Keep your phones on your side when you are with them and be a parent they want you to be. You will see your children will eventually be the kids you want them to be — kids with minor meltdowns and tantrums, kids with empathy, kindness, and love.
Is this going to be your new resolution too? Just like mine?
